It is always there, lurking beneath the surface. Microscopic. Whether the sun is out, or the breezes are gently tempered with relief from placid stillness. It’s there. Surrounding conditions are unpredictable in their ability to influence changes in it. It blooms, of its on accord, like an undesirable high maintenance house guest. It’s indiscriminate of survival conditions, and unpredictable in duration. Ever present and under the best conditions, self-contained in innocuous packaging like generic seasoning that remains on a dusty shelf long after the flavor loses its intensity.
What it is, exactly, is difficult to define, whether due to the limitations of my vocabulary, or the plethora of words available. Some too general, lending an unfair blanketed assessment, other’s too specific, not allowing latitude for varying symptoms. Maybe in definitive terms, it doesn’t matter. The point being simply it is there. In good times and bad.
It’s not debilitating, nor deserving of an over-priced pharmaceutical solution; there are plenty of worthy neuroses that are, but this isn’t one of them. It’s knowing logically, and humbly that there is nothing worthy of complaint, yet indifference blankets most of the expressive of emotions. It’s possible to present it in embossed packaging with a silver foil logo as the ultimate in pragmatism, but it is nothing but overpriced packaging. Just an artificial allure to present a product in a better light to make it more marketable to the masses. But a pig in a tuxedo is still a pig.
I warned my partner before we married, I was this way. Distant, brooding, and blatantly inconsolable. I didn’t want to drag him into the emotional inertia, but selfishly I wanted to be with him. He assured me he could handle it, but I don’t think he knew exactly what it was or how long it could last. It’s easy to be optimistic about your influence in someone’s life when you are madly in love, or passionately in heat, whichever applies, as it is difficult to determine the difference in the moment.
It’s different being me with a partner. I have to put more effort into casting my selfishness aside, and not having negative influence over his mood simply because I am lost in my head. He isn’t to blame, as I have need this way since adolescence, I don’t want to subject him to my inconsolability. Though in truth, I don’t think he’s noticed. He wouldn’t be aware of my lack of posting; the most obvious sign. In fact, I prefer he not notice, as it means I haven’t upset the balance of his life too much.
Ultimately, what does it mean? Not much. I have trouble finding the right words. The good things, are usually ordinary things of little significance when translated into words, and read like utter tedium. Fuck me to tears, pass out from boredom normal. The things that get under my skin, stinging like nettles, and spreading like poison ivy? Those translate into self-indulgent whining. After eliminating those self-serving narratives, there is frequently little to say.


yeah, I was afraid that was what your last post was about…..
I could say that I understand (you’ve noticed I stopped blogging? maybe?) but my understanding means I know this won’t matter to you. I could say that I’m sorry you are going through this, but that won’t mean much, if anything to you. I could say that this too will pass, it has in the past, but that won’t matter to you right now. So I will say these things despite knowing, because it makes me feel a little better for having reached out. And because I know, being that way myself, that deep down it does matter. A little. And that will have to be enough, for right now.
I’ll be here when you find your words.
Your restraint is admirable, but don’t think we mind if you want to complain.
So many times, I find life interminably long. Hope you find the joy again soon.
I have NO IDEA what you are talking about. Nope, none whatsoever. Not me. Uh-uh.
I think for me the worst part of feeling the way i sometimes do, is that, being an analytic, i want so much for there to be a reason. But there is no reason, so the ‘fault’ lies within me, and i feel bad about that.
So hey, you are not alone.
Nice message from Bob too.
here now, and always.
“lost in my head” — only recently have I figured out that’s sort of where I go and how nice of you to finally put it so succinctly for me.
Bob, yes, I’ve noticed, and I hope that one day the “stars” will properly align so that you might return, but only under the conditions you set forth. We should all have the right, or privilege, of expressing ourselves under our own conditions. I appreciate your kind words.
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De, I appreciate you, and I think restraint is too kind a word. There is a place I reach in consciousness in which self-awareness dictates growth as indulgence has been saturated. It is a quotient which varies from individual to individual.
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meno, self-awreness is an absolute bitch isn’t it? Bob is a very intuitive person, making Laura a very lucky person.
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flutter, thank you, and likewise.
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/Daisy, it feels like the most logical place to look for myself, but if I bump into you in my head, I’ll be happy to set you upon your proper path.
I’m here, still reading. Just so you know.
sari, thanks.