There is knowledge and there is aloofness, then there is denial and there is wishing not to know the truth, only desiring things be settled.

After a week of quietly seething, my spouse announced it was time to call his brother about an old voicemail. I could feel my shoulders tense up in anticipation, and before I knew it my heart was racing. I was relieved he closed his office door. I didn’t want to know what was being said, provided it didn’t create an irreparable rift between us.

I had no no desire to listen at the door, or subject myself to a recap. I wanted the moment to be over lest my beating heart explode within my ribcage. One phrase escaped unnoticed through the gap between door and hardwood floor, “This is the last I will say of it..”

Don’t ask. Don’t tell. Hopefully this isn’t a symptom of denial.

img_2396xThe conversation was brief and ended with an opening door and a request for an old phone book to look up an address. He text the address, presumably to his brother, and said “Let’s have some of your homemade wine.”

Uh? Homemade wine is a generous phrase. I’ve taken to calling it the science experiment. It’s like a fruity, slightly yeasty variation of moonshine. He thinks it is close to 40 proof, but I don’t believe he is right. I also don’t believe in driving down the mountain immediately after downing a glass.

He hasn’t been very interested in my science experiment. He knew it was quietly fermenting in the cabinet, with balloons in place to inhibit gas exchange. He knew I was starting with the most basic of materials, recycled wine bottles, baking yeast, canned concentrate, and a rubber band collected from a broccoli purchase.

I think he’s intrigued because I started at the most basic level. My expectations are low, but I hope to learn things that will make the next fermentation better. Simple, but learning by doing. That’s life, dozens of finite adjustments in hopes of finding something that works for you without infringing on the rights of others.

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