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sanity is a cozy lie » Blog Archive » Proper Responses — Sat, 02 May 2009 15:58:52 +0000

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By: jaded

jaded — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 13:55:50 +0000

Bob my husband has difficulty picking out the right boyfriend. He needs a guy with skills, who will allow him his tenure as the alpha male on the project. Oh, and he also needs to like foosball. I try to be around, yet out of the way. If he needs me I’m available, but if he doesn’t, I can try to accomplish something for my own mental health. The thumb twittering and public thinking make me nuts, I research more in advance. We all have our own ways of troubleshooting.

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egan, at least now I understand his process, and I am better equipped to adapt in a way that doesn’t make us both crazy. Times are tough for contractors. We also had visits from asphalt contractors, and a general handyman in the last 2 months.

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meno, he would only disturb my reading, by asking me to fetch beer. Sounds like De has you figured out.

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De, I participate because the outcome will benefit both of us, and we both want it. I do my research in advance, he does his in the moment. He needs to feel like he is in charge more than I do, and frankly he has more experience than I do with foundational work. Letting him lead this is a no-brainer. I know in the end, he, actually we will do an excellent job, but the process of thinking it out…

By: De

De — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 13:06:08 +0000

yeah, right, Meno. Like you would ever actually do that. You’d just say you did to get out of a lunch date or something.

It is difficult for me to be a bystander during the swearing, even though I have finally learned that it’s just part of the process, and not indicative of the outcome.

What a great story, that it was the same workmen who made the path you removed. Hard to resist having some fun with that one.

If I didn’t know better, I’d think you’d married my sister’s first husband. In order to work together, they had to clearly assign a project leader. My husband is perfectly willing to accept my suggestions, and usually does things the way I want them. The only complaint I have is that he wastes a lot of mental energy thinking things through without getting my input first. This probably works out because I don’t always have two cents to put in.

By: meno

meno — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 20:48:13 +0000

I think you should just sip at a glass of lemonade from a lawn chair and comment repeatedly upon his cleverness and manly strength.

By: egan

egan — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 18:40:11 +0000

Man, I’ve put in a patio before and it wasn’t fun. The one you did with your hubby looks pretty awesome. I bet it sucks being a foreman and can see your frustration. I never do well taking orders from anyone.

Hey, I was in Home Depot yesterday and this guy I thought was a Home Depot employee approached me while I was sifting through electrical plugs. Turns out he was soliciting a Home Depot remodel business. I’m not 100% sure he was a Home Depot employee, but I thought it was odd. I guess I was in a Home Depot, but I found it odd they’d pester customers in their store. Maybe that’s what they have to do though in these tougher times.

By: Bob

Bob — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 17:11:24 +0000

Laura can’t stand to be around me when I’m doing something like that. I don’t have an inner dialog – it is all said out loud. She gets nervous when I cuss, rant, no expletives deleted whenever I encounter a problem. For her, it’s like a thousand world-endings and she can’t take the stress.

So, she disappears, I get the job done and all is well.

You need to find your hubs a male who can “help” him out with these projects. They’ll discuss the endless variety of ways the problem can be surmounted and then do it – with no requirement for you to nod meaningfully at the right times.